Even when you are confident in your decision not to use drugs or alcohol, it can be hard when it’s your friend who is offering.
A lot of times, a simple “no thanks” may be enough. But sometimes it’s not. It can get intense, especially if the people who want you to join in on a bad idea feel judged.
Here are a few tips that may come in handy.
1. Offer to be the designated driver. Get your friends home safely, and everyone will be glad you didn’t drink or take drugs.
2. If you’re on a sports team, you can say you are staying healthy to maximize your athletic performance—besides, no one would argue that a hangover would help you play your best.
3. “I have to [study for a big test / go to a concert / visit my grandmother / babysit / march in a parade, etc.]. I can’t do that after a night of drinking/drugs.”
4. Keep a bottled drink like a soda or iced tea with you to drink at parties. People will be less likely to pressure you to drink alcohol if you’re already drinking something. If they still offer you something, just say, “I’m covered.”
5. Find something to do so that you look busy. Get up and dance. Offer to DJ.
6. When all else fails…blame your parents. They won’t mind! Explain that your parents are really strict, or that they'll check up on you when you get home.
If your friends aren’t having it—then it’s a good time to find the door. Seriously. Nobody wants to leave the party or their friends, but if your friends won’t let you party without drugs, then it’s not going to be fun for you.
Sometimes these situations totally surprise you. But sometimes you know the party you're going to has alcohol or that people plan to do drugs at a concert. At times like that, asking yourself what you could do differently is key to not having to go through this every time.
How would you react if a classmate offered you drugs? Play this interactive game to find out.